Leah Corbett  — ENS



Our brains can process thoughts quickly – the equivalent of at least 600 to 800 words a minute. Yet our speech is relatively slow – 100 to 300 words a minute. This gives our brains spare capacity to think of other things while we are listening. It\'s easy to get distracted. Or, rather than listening, you are thinking of the next thing you will say. This means you may fail to really hear the point being made by the other party or pick up their underlying feelings and needs. Real listening can be hard work and requires self-discipline. It’s a particular challenge when someone disagrees with you. Here are 8 tips to increase your listening skills: 1. Prepare yourself for listening 2. Continually ask yourself: \'What do they want me to do, think or believe?\" 3. Mentally repeat to yourself their key words or phrases 4. Make contrasts and comparisons, validate the evidence 5. Read between the lines: listen with your eyes, watch for speech/body inconsistencies 6. Monitor your listening bl

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